I just haven't had the "energy" to post.
For the past 2 mornings, Emily has texted her Dad to say she wants help, will go to rehab. The house they were squatting in got busted. She was hand cuffed , but let go.. DARN! Pretty much everyone around her is being arrested or going to rehab.
She will text for awhile, saying they are breaking in cars to sleep. She texts early in the morning and quits by 10 or 11 am. I am assuming she wakes up sick, then gets a fix and forgets she wants help. She said she has not bathed in 9 days. She no access to water or food. She says she is very sick. She needs help immediately.
I can tell you, for once , my husband and I are on the same page. He is agreeing with everything and enforcing it. This makes it so much easier. One weight off the shoulders.
We are consistent in telling her.. get yourself to to detox and then we will talk. If she can get drugs, steal, convince the police to let her go, she can get herself to detox. We remind her that she is consistently telling us we can't do anything because she is an adult now. So adults take care of themselves. How bad do you want it?? If you want it bad enough, you will do what you have to to get yourself help. There are many detox places here, she knows what to say to get in.
We have a place we've been talking to for rehab. It is very long term and not easy. But, we are not jumping til we see she takes action. Even if she got herself detoxed, she might decide she feels "better" and not follow thru with our bottom line, long term rehab.
There was a mini blizzard here .. schools and businesses are closed today. I can't imagine living on the streets in this weather. I have to say it breaks my heart I can't give her a blanket or warm meal.. but, she has done this to herself. I just choose not to think about that end of it.
But, it feels good not to back down. To hold firm.
I just wanted to ask, that you keep her in thoughts and prayers these days. I believe it takes a village of prayer. I need to build that village.
Thanks!
Hugs, Kelly
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Thinking of you all. I can't imagine what you must be going through as parents right now.
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ReplyDeleteWhat you wrote was so encouraging, not from the standpoint of Emily but from you and your husband. You did exactly what I think should be done. You are right if she is ready, it will become amazing what she will do to get help.
I think you offered your hand but you did it it partnership. I admire you.
We all know that how you and your husband are handeling the current situation with Emily is exactly how we're all told it must be done, but that doesn't make it a damn bit easier to do. I pray that if I find myself in an extreme situation such as yours, I to can find the strength and determination to do what must be done for my child. If anything is going to get Emily to her bottom, it's doing exactly what your doing. I am so encouraged by you. You can certainly count on my being part of your "village"...keeping Emily, you and your husband in prayer. Hugs and prayers, Kristi
ReplyDeleteI am praying for her...and for you. This is such a very rough thing to read.....I certainly know it's so very much tougher to read. You are doing the right thing...but as Kristi said,...that doesn't help make it any easier at all. So sorry to know you're going through this. Please let us know what happens.
ReplyDeleteI meant to write....it is very much tougher to live.
ReplyDeletePraying for ALL of you, Kelly.
ReplyDeleteKeeping you and your beloved daughter in my prayers. This is so hard. I am grateful you and your husband are on the same page. (Hugs)
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