Tight Rope Walker

Tight Rope Walker

Thursday, March 31, 2011

I Never Intentionally Laugh At Someone

I try really hard to not intentionally laugh at someone elses expense.. BUT, there is always an exception right? I got a text from Em's old bf last night. ( The one I like!) It read: Have you heard from Em? Is she all better now? I had to LAUGH. I had to share it with my husband and son. They too, got a kick out of it. That lead me to realize, nobody really has clue do they? If you are not in the situation of addiction, you are still innocent. Like if they go away to rehab in a few weeks they come out all better. Wouldn't that be nice? In a perfect world huh? I responded: How are you? I hope you are doing well! I am not sure if they ever get all better. But, no, we have not heard from her. Don't want to burst any one's bubble or laugh at their expense. And then I thought, our family's humor is pretty sad! Definitely not normal! But hey, we put the "fun" in dysfunction! Or we try! There is a recovery comedian. His name is Mark Lundholm. Emily has seen him several times at various institutions. For some reason he calls her up on stage each and every time. I appreciate his niche, but didn't find all of his act funny, like she did or does. I think humor goes a long way and is very healthy. And for some reason that text last night struck me and I was reminded to laugh. I am going to do it more often!

2 comments:

  1. Gallows humor, baby! My kids and I have learned to laugh through it all, too. I'm glad that you are all still able to find the irony and the smiles in everything, that is what will keep you going. Emily and ALL of you are always on my mind.

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  2. My poor mother was dying and in a lot of pain from an amputation. Beth (our addict) called up to give grandma a perscription that would knock the pain out of her. She could was worried that the Doctors would let her grandma endure pain that she knew how to cure. My mother listened and wrote down the intricate instructions which involved fetanyl punctuated with percoset and morphine. My mom said, I will keep it in mind in case I need it. This is her area of expertise, I bet it would work. We all laughed including my dying mother. It was gallows humor.
    We also appreciated that Beth had compassion which is rare in her addicted state.

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