Tight Rope Walker

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Tuesday, March 5, 2013

New Year, New Changes

I am sorry I have been MIA.  It does not mean I have not thought of all you out there.  I know how hard the Holidays can be for families like ours.

I am not quite sure where to start??  My son , with our encouragement has decided to take a semester off.  Maybe more, who knows.  He needs to mature.  He did not do 16 home work assignments in his accounting class.  When I calmly asked why, he said it was hard and he didn't feel like it.  Well, sorry, we don't feel like paying for college for somebody that can't do the homework.  He is not "kicked" out of school, we made a financial decision.  Our plan is for him to go to Ecuador for a few months.  He is working with his dept. head to see if he can get college credit.  Leave my home as boy and come back a man.  Well that's my hope anyway.

Meanwhile, we spoke to Emily at xmas, she put in a home visit proposal.  And then promptly got put "on the move" for 14 days.  On the move means, what it says, you are on the move, working, cleaning, etc.  You get 1 to 2 hours a night/day of sleep.  All your privileges are taken away.  She got put on the move because she knew a girl kissed a boy and she didn't tell on her and as a SR person in the program that was wrong.  14 days wrong?  Not sure.  She got off the move and they had a group session.  She asked about her proposal for her home visit, which was for the weekend of Jan 17th ( last weekend).  The Director ripped up the proposal in a lot of pieces and threw it at her and said you are not seeing your family, your Mom will be the reason you stick a needle in your arm again.  Mind you, they had taken all our visits away.  We had not seen her since Sept.   Well she had a melt down, she had not slept, the Director said due to your melt down, 3 more days on the move.

That was the icing on the cake.  She called me, she had worked 97 hours in 6 days.  There was no food in the house.  She basically had gotten all she could out of the program and her needs were more to get some individual time out in society.  Move on, get education, get to meetings, etc.

She was the "golden" girl.  She moved up quickly , was doing well in her program.  She went to Oregon for a class.  And then, the State came and pulled their participants out.  Next, Cherokee Nations came and took their people out.  I did some investigating, the Director had her license pulled from the state of NC.  She engaged in an inappropriate relationship, used participants food stamps for personal use.  The list goes on and on.

So my son and I made a nerve wracking trip down and got her.  It was solid rain and sleet on the way down and back.  We took our time and got hotels so it much longer than normal.  We got her in mid Jan.  I will write more about her visit soon.  I could not get into this site for awhile and not sure why, but seems I am here today!  So I will continue the "story" soon!  But Emily has been clean 17 months!  Warms my heart.


  1. I really don't understand what the reasoning of the harsh punishments. Most would have completely cracked. I am pretty sure my son would have.

    It amazes me that she is still clean and has been for so long. What a blessing.

    I came looking for your blog to help you get on so I am glad you figured it out! :)

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